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oil & vinegar, volume 1.
tell me again, can we not be lovers, just friends?
i have a lot of male friends. everyone from my female friends, other males, boyfriends, family members, etc. tell me that either i like them, they like me, we gettin married blah blah. so i ask you, can they really just be my friend?
so i present a few situations in which a valid friendship can grow, without feelings being caught. hopefully.
the bff aka noonereallybelievesthatthisisjustafriendship…
the two in question have known each other for years, since before boobs, facial hair, erections and were even a factor. they have seen one another at their best, but more importantly at their worst. for some, especially from the outside looking in, this is the perfect foundation for a long term relationship. but for you, this might be the exact reason why it would never work out. the mystery is gone, they have done things that you could never forgive as a spouse, they are now like a brother, etc. Contrary to your typical romantic comedy, not all boy/girl next door stories turn into epic love affairs. So you tell those nosey nancys and those inquisitive ians, friendship is as far as it has gotten for a reason and that is perfectly ok, sheesh.
the ugly aka neverinyourdamnlifeunlessicantfindanyoneelse!
to be quite frank, because you find the other in no way, shape, or form attractive, you will most likely keep them as a friend, if even that. Its unfair, because i’m sure one if not both parties have wonderful personalities. but that’s life. if you find a friend desperate enough, there may be a secret pact formed where if the more attractive one never finds anyone else, or at least by age 40, they will marry you. if that is your only hope, i am sorry. but you will always have a friend and hey, this IS what the post is about so hooray.
the ex, aka udeadassnottrynasmashthatonemo’gain?
many burn bridges after relationships end, mostly depending on the amount of blod shed upon breakup. jk. but there are some who are able to sustain a very strong friendship post-loverdom, much to the dismay of the next. the draw is that an ex presumably knows you better than most if not all who you interact with so why would they not make the perfect bff, assuming everyone stays in line. it takes a certain level of maturity to separate platonic affection from romantic desire, but the two in question assume that since they have experienced both, they now know the difference and can be successful in friendship since they failed otherwise. unfortunately, no matter how platonic they may claim to be, those from the outside often wonder: udeadassnottrynasmashthatonemo’gain?
themy verdict from personal experience: its possible. not every life play’s out like sanaa lathan’s in … well ALL her movies.VOLUME TWO will feature why men and women CANNOT be friends, so look out for that :)
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water.
i need my blog to be more coherent and more consistent. one with itself. i need something that will tie it all together. something that is in everything.
hmmmmm
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threw it back.
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ACTUALLY.
i haven’t actually said anything on tumblr in a few months now. just rebloggin sh*t like im the tin man.
so i will propose a question that has been bothering the F outta me for a while. i need real reasons, please lol.
so the FUCK what if i wanted to cut my hair. why do men get their balls all twisted (which i heard really hurts) when a girl even looks at a pair of scissors?
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summer recipes.
again, its been a while. s/o to the new followers tho! hi :)
college is a time for soul searching and decisions, both personal and professional that will shape the rest of your life if you allow them. but no pressure. for those who have found yourselves at a crossroads lately of any sort [like i am], or for those who just enjoy thinking [like i do], this may be for you.
1. Stop looking for signs. it only shows your fear, indecisiveness and lack of commitment. if you have a decision to make, sit down, think, and make it. look in the mirror and #growapair
2. Follow the advice you give your friends. have a taste of your own medicine, practice what you preach, etc. However you would like to put it, it is not a coincidence that you give your friends poppin advice and yourself … not so much. You can tell the truth to everyone but yourself because WHO likes to be honest with themselves? #niggaplease
3. THINK. the bigger the decision, the longer you need most likely. think about the causes and the consequences, get your facts straight and get to it. think for yourself, take advice with a grain of salt because at the end of the day its your life. remember, rash decisions always end badly. even the word is bad. rash. eww. #dothenoodledance
4. Be realistic. Dream big, but live wisely. You should always have goals, but everyone needs a little #comeonson now and then.
5. Stick with it. My best friend tells me all the time, many tough decisions don’t look good at first but you owe it to yourself to keep going. Give it 110% and do the Nike. You made the decision so i mean … #whynot
don’t worry. be happy. ::whistles::
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i been gone for a while but hi there, face here :) back with my overly emotional posts about love, sex and food. new name and new pic too. enjoy.
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love this. mad into my cartoon emotions this weekend lol
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so ms beyonce is on the hunt for a reinvention i see. between her clothing choice at cochella and the makeup/clothing themes of her recent videos, i’d say she is going for a cross between lady gaga and amy winehouse with a splash of her very own baby sister, solange.
feel free to express yourself. but not everything works for everyone.
the song is cute, though and she looks good as freakin always.
oh and to answer the question at hand: why don’t you love me?
its the wig, honey bee …
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its my twentyfirst birthday.
my my my, how time flies.
[this was actually my outfit yesterday. going casual today, well until tonight lol]
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i will be usher’s lil freak. no questions asked. so BOOO to the girl lookin like a lil doe eyed bambi. i fuxx with the video tho. concept is a kinda sex hostel deal, goes with the song n the dancers r sexy lol no homo…
